“ Tis better to have loved and lost
Compared to never to have adored whatsoever. ”
~Alfred, God Tennyson (1809-1892)
We are able to often be remaining wondering regarding the flippancy associated with plastic platitudes, and this quote, above, can easily be eligible for misapplication, shedding the strength of its redoubtable truth. We all don’ t want to go presently there – where people who may be genuinely aggrieved are disposed for further discouragement due to a carelessly meant cliché.
No, we can take any better than that.
TO HAVE NEVER LOVED
To get never loved might surely require the state of having in no way been loved, for how could an individual who has experienced the receipt of enjoy not return this?
After that there are people who may have selected the safe route in everyday life; to not couple-up or purchase significantly deep associations, due to the surpassing risk of hurt. Concern is the motivation. Such a ‘ safe’ every day life is really no lifestyle whatsoever.
Actual life is known to run the actual gauntlet of enjoy. It has to, because life would be a waste or else.
And we may see the actual detriment within the individual who has not risked for enjoy. To have in no way loved is almost associated with a state of getting never lived.
TO HAVE LOVED AND DROPPED
It was Queen Elizabeth 2 who mentioned, “ Grief is the price we pay for enjoy. ” I think that quote could be improved – grief may be the price we purchase having adored.
Passende gives us an existence that requires danger in order to acquire, but in attaining we inevitably get rid of – not the idea of life by itself, but we experience loss, and now we could ponder the objective of such experiences. All good items have their objective. And love great.
The objective of enjoy, or of jeopardizing life toward the ends of love, is actually growth; mainly psychological and spiritual growth. But such growth doesn’ t finish there; it ramps up in the way of measuring reduction – when the love we now have so keenly invested is transformed in a flash from actuality to a memory space.
Grief is on a higher plane for growth than love is actually. There exists a dependence on true strength associated with character to negotiate its hilly landscape.
Grief is a mountaineer manual of the highest order.
Grief takes us in the base camp associated with Love to the peak of Maturation.
It’ s better to have adored and lost due to the experiences and tremendous life lessons given in God by means of, and because associated with, the vacation. We are larger, more compassionate people for having loved and dropped.
© 2013 S. J. Wickham.